The Independent Student Newspaper of Northern Kentucky University.
Isabel+Sleczkowski%2C+president+of+Lavender+Society.
Back to Article
Back to Article

Student activist promotes LGBTQ inclusivity, education

Isabel Sleczkowski, president of Lavender Society.

Isabel Sleczkowski, president of Lavender Society.

Natalie Hamren

Isabel Sleczkowski, president of Lavender Society.

Natalie Hamren

Natalie Hamren

Isabel Sleczkowski, president of Lavender Society.

Student activist promotes LGBTQ inclusivity, education

The president of Lavender Society is a 'loud, proud lesbian'

Isabel Sleczkowski is a loud, proud lesbian. Or at least that’s how she describes herself. 

She’s a friend; she’s a safe place. She occasionally puts too much on her plate but tries to give everything she has to each of those things. She’s always learning and growing. She’s an intersection of passions that have manifested in a unique way. 

Sleczkowski, junior theatre major, is the founder and president of Lavender Society—an NKU club for queer women and non-binary people who love women. 

For many, Sleczkowski is a role model—although, she doesn’t think of herself as one. It’s a role she’s grown into, especially in college. 

“It felt like it came out of nowhere, where I’m like, ‘what’s so special about me?’” Sleczkowski said. “I don’t really understand why people look up to me. It means a lot to me. I mean, to know that the work I’m doing is helping people means more to me than anything.”

The outspoken activist, sometimes referred to as “gay Jesus” by her mentees, wasn’t always confident in herself.

Life in high school

When Sleczkowski dated a boy for two years in high school, she said she assumed any feelings toward men was attraction, a term she said is called compulsory heterosexuality. 

She said she subconsciously sought out the first boy who would date her to prove to herself that she was straight. 

Sleczkowski said she began questioning her sexuality around this time. During her freshman year, she was at a friend’s 16th birthday party where she noticed a girl dancing. 

Natalie Hamren
Isabel Sleczkowski holds the lesbian pride flag.

“I just was so enraptured by her that I was thinking about kissing her,” Sleczkowski said. “I was like, ‘that’s kind of weird; Maybe I’m [bisexual], but only for this one girl’ which is really unusual because most people don’t actually know what [bisexuality] is until after they start questioning.”

Shortly after, she dated another boy to prove to herself that she was straight because she was confused about how she felt. They broke up and she started developing feelings for her best friend.

“I always wanted to see her. I remembered all these details about her,” Sleczkowski said.

While she was having these thoughts and realizations, a boy she went to school with outed her sexuality.

“I was outed because there was a boy who kept hitting on me and wouldn’t take ‘no’ for an answer—wouldn’t take anything for an answer—until I, finally, was physically and metaphorically cornered and told him I was gay,” Sleczkowski said. “He told everyone.”

Because of that, Sleczkowski was the only out lesbian at her school in Louisville at the age of 15. She was propelled into a place of needing to have all the answers, she said.

“When you’re the only one that people know, you’re the one they come to for questions,” Sleczkowski said. 

Educating herself

Being the only source for LGBTQ information in high school was overwhelming at first, Sleczkowski said. 

“I didn’t really know anything,” Sleczkowski said. “I definitely gave out some wrong information. All of us speak from points of ignorance before we’re educated. I think the difference is that I made a very conscious effort to educate myself.”

She said she still educates herself today by following Twitter accounts of people who identify as whatever she’s learning about.

Sleczkowski said she created Lavender Society to bridge the gap between queer women and non-binary people. She said she didn’t realize the need for the organization until she started it.

“I learned a lot about trans issues by following and just listening to trans people—not trying to speak over them, just listening to what they said,” Sleczkowski said.

Currently, she’s following Twitter accounts about disabilities to be more intersectional. 

“I don’t think that you ever stop growing in your activism, and I don’t think you ever should. I don’t think you should ever think that you’re perfect because I’m not,” Sleczkowski said. 

Shifting to college

Sleczkowski immediately sought out the Office of LGBTQ Programs and Services when she came to NKU.

During her freshman year, she was in the mentee-mentor program. During her sophomore year, director of the office, Bonnie Meyer, approached Sleczkowski about starting a new organization. 

Sleczkowski said she created Lavender Society to bridge the gap between queer women and non-binary people. She said she didn’t realize the need for the organization until she started it. 

In its inaugural year, over 100 queer women and non-binary people joined. Sleczkowski said Lavender Society is trans-inclusive. 

She said that because she’s open and loud about her sexuality, other people are less afraid to be open—which is one of the most impactful things she’s done just by being out.

In addition to being the president of Lavender Society, Sleczkowski is the lead ambassador in the Office of LGBTQ Programs and Services, a youth group facilitator for GLSEN (Gay, Lesbian & Straight Education Network,) a member of the inclusive excellence committee for the College of Arts and Sciences, a secretary for Alpha Psi Omega, the head props master for the theatre department and more. 

“My email signature, as you probably noticed, is long,” Sleczkowski said while she laughed. 

Loud and proud

Sleczkowski said she’s not afraid to talk about herself, saying that sometimes gay people are expected to be quieter and not to “shove it down people’s throats.” Sleczkowski said she gets accused of that. 

“What’s really happening is that straight girls are talking about their boyfriends and I interject talking about my girlfriend. And, because I’m gay, that’s seen as me talking about being gay when I’m really just talking about my experiences,” Sleczkowski said. 

Nowadays, Sleczkowski said she’s less apologetic about being gay or wearing pride shirts. She said she hates the stereotype that being gay shouldn’t be a personality trait. 

“My lesbianism—and to a lesser extent, my demi-sexuality—has affected my experiences and my life … it’s going to be a part of who I am, regardless of whether or not it’s an identity, or a part of me or how you feel about that. Like, yeah, it’s a personality trait; it’s going to affect how I think about everything, how I approach everything.” 

“Whether or not I like it, being a lesbian affects my views in every single class, in every single thing I do,” Sleczkowski said. “I’m going to be noticing things from a different perspective. And I’m trying to help other people see that, too.”

Print Friendly, PDF & Email

The Northerner • Copyright 2019 • FLEX WordPress Theme by SNOLog in